When control of another is not an option, how can we proceed skillfully, without causing suffering either to ourselves or others?
When the ground is overturned, how much more fertile is the soil?
When we cannot skillfully interfere in the actions or words of another, what can we do?
When is it alright to let go of our desires, but not go past our limits, to allow for the healing of another?
When we safely (safety for ourselves and other), step out of the way and allow for creative chaos to happen, it is alright when we can attend to ourselves, by watching that we remain heedful in the observation of our own fermentations (thoughts, that lead to suffering, that deludedly justify entitlement):
Excerpt from the:
Sabbasava Sutta: All the Fermentations
...The Blessed One said, "Monks, the ending of the fermentations is for one who knows; sees, I tell you, not for one who does not know does not see. For one who knows what sees what? Appropriate attention inappropriate attention. When a monk attends inappropriately, unarisen fermentations arise, and arisen fermentations increase. When a monk attends appropriately, unarisen fermentations do not arise, and arisen fermentations are abandoned. There are fermentations to be abandoned by seeing, those to be abandoned by restraining, those to be abandoned by using, those to be abandoned by tolerating, those to be abandoned by avoiding, those to be abandoned by dispelling, and those to be abandoned by developing."
When a monk attends appropriately, unarisen fermentations do not arise, and arisen fermentations are abandoned. There are fermentations to be abandoned by:
When the ground is overturned, how much more fertile is the soil?
When we cannot skillfully interfere in the actions or words of another, what can we do?
When is it alright to let go of our desires, but not go past our limits, to allow for the healing of another?
When we safely (safety for ourselves and other), step out of the way and allow for creative chaos to happen, it is alright when we can attend to ourselves, by watching that we remain heedful in the observation of our own fermentations (thoughts, that lead to suffering, that deludedly justify entitlement):
Excerpt from the:
Sabbasava Sutta: All the Fermentations
...The Blessed One said, "Monks, the ending of the fermentations is for one who knows; sees, I tell you, not for one who does not know does not see. For one who knows what sees what? Appropriate attention inappropriate attention. When a monk attends inappropriately, unarisen fermentations arise, and arisen fermentations increase. When a monk attends appropriately, unarisen fermentations do not arise, and arisen fermentations are abandoned. There are fermentations to be abandoned by seeing, those to be abandoned by restraining, those to be abandoned by using, those to be abandoned by tolerating, those to be abandoned by avoiding, those to be abandoned by dispelling, and those to be abandoned by developing."
When a monk attends appropriately, unarisen fermentations do not arise, and arisen fermentations are abandoned. There are fermentations to be abandoned by:
- Seeing: Discerning ideas that are fit or unfit for attention and discerning the delusion of I/me/ my ownership.
- Restraining: Restraint of the sense faculties, body and intellect faculties.
- Using: Non-exploitation or manipulation of resources, no overindulgence or self-torture.
- Tolerating: Difficulty is endured with patience.
- Avoiding: Staying away from things that will kill us, such as suicide.
- Dispelling: Does not tolerate an arisen thought of sensuality (of the five senses) and unskillful mental qualities, these thoughts are abandoned, dispelled, and wiped out of existence.
- Developing: Reflecting appropriately, develops mindfulness as a factor for Awakening dependent on seclusion... dispassion... cessation, resulting in letting go. He develops analysis of qualities as a factor for Awakening... persistence as a factor for Awakening... rapture as a factor for Awakening... serenity as a factor for Awakening... concentration as a factor for Awakening... equanimity as a factor for Awakening dependent on seclusion... dispassion... cessation, resulting in letting go...
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/mn/mn.002.than.html
When all is beyond our skillful means what remains is to watch that we remain in good order, and that we not enter into suffering because we believe we must control someone/something else...
